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My son had to go on a six-month military deployment to a crisis zone abroad. I was terribly afraid that something might happen to him.

I couldn't sleep at night and had nightmares. This went on for about two months.
After two months, we had our first phone conversation and at least I was able to sleep again. The nightmares became less frequent and the sporadic contact calmed me down a bit.

However, I couldn't completely shake off my fear the whole time.
So my active conflict phase lasted quite a long time and the conflict mass was very high.

Time passed and my son was supposed to come back on October 3.
On the night of October 3, I developed back pain, which got worse every day.

On October 6, my son arrived at home. Before that he was still at his barracks.
Starting on October 6, I had unbearable back and kidney pain and later that night, it turned out to be my first kidney colic.

My territorial marking conflict hit with full intensity in March when my son was about to leave.

I experienced the conflict-active phase by repeatedly suffering from anxiety, sleep disturbances, and crying spells.

During the healing phase, when the kidney stones formed, I felt pretty good. I didn't notice the stones forming, and the symptoms from the conflict-active phase greatly improved.

I knew that he would return on October 3. I was very happy that this time would pass.
My body cells reacted immediately, allowing the conflict to be resolved and the kidney stones and grit that were formed to be eliminated from the body.
This resulted in renal colic, which finally led to the passing of the stones.

After the second healing phase, where everything got back to normal, I was able to move on to a new level of health.

Because of the foreign assignment, I was no longer able to adequately protect (mark) my son's territory. As a result, a calcium oxalate stone (see photo) had formed in the renal pelvis.

 

Note from Ingmar Marquardt:

Thank you for the wonderful report, and it's great that the stone could even be photographed!
End urine is formed in the collecting ducts and flows into the calyces. If there are swellings in there, urine can be deposited and calcium oxalate stones (or other types of stones) can be formed.
They may also be formed as a result of degradation processes in the renal collecting ducts (i.e., in the case of an associated refugee conflict).
The connection to the event with her son seems very clear here based on the two-phase nature of the conflict, even though the reaction with a territory marking conflict was surprising to me. Perhaps her son's departure crossed or disregarded a boundary for her, or she was previously unable to communicate this successfully, so that her son's departure from her territory was perceived in this way.